Aralık 2, 2025
Zavallı, aptal ve liberal sanatlar diplomasıyla mezun olmak üzere. Bundan sonra ne yapacağım hakkında hiçbir fikrim yok
Üniversiteye gitmek için burs aldım ve annem bana liberal sanatlar diploması aldırdı (başka bir şeye gitmek istiyordum), çünkü başarısız kız kardeşim bunun için gitti ve benim de başarısız kız kardeşimin aldığı gibi bir sosyal hizmet diploması almamı istiyor. Sosyal hizmetle ilgili hiçbir şey yapmak istemiyorum (danışmanlık, sosyal hizmet uzmanı, yönetim) ve ilgilendiğim herhangi bir derece yok. Araba kullanamıyorum, ortalıkta asgari ücretli işler yok, annem çalışmamı istemiyor bu yüzden zaten almamı engellemek için çılgınca çaba sarf edecek. Üniversiteye gitmem konusunda ısrar ediyor. Fakir olduğum ve taşınacak yerim olmadığı için taşınamıyorum. Şimdi ne yapacağım? Hiçbir becerim yok, hiçbir yeteneğim yok ve hiçbir şeyde iyi değilim. Annemin almamı istediği diplomayı mı almalıyım?
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You should tell your mom to respectfully bug off and do something you like.
There is absolutely no point in generating student loan debt(if it applies) for something you don’t want to do. Move away, and go experience life and find things you enjoy doing. You don’t have to have it all figured out now. Creating a plan and accomplishing things for your mother’s agenda will be so much work, just to be completely unfulfilling for you.
My parents begged me not to go to school until I knew what I wanted to do. I didn’t listen, now I have so much debt and I never even finished- so it got me nowhere. I wish I had listened to them, they wanted me to find something that I could reasonably and happily do for the rest of my life.
Social work is hard. Having to help people through their struggles is hard, and the demographic isn’t always easy to work with. It takes a very special person to feel fulfilled doing that, don’t trap yourself when you have the rest of your life ahead of you.
Your mother is smart enough to know that education is the key to moving out of poverty and moving up in class. Now it’s on you to decide what you want to do. A liberal arts degree is better than no degree at all. You need to grow up and make a decision about what want to do in life.
Ever consider a health occupation? I became a certified nursing assistant and was employed pretty quickly.
Every single thing you said had to do with you having no power to do anything at all. Your mom is making you, you can’t drive, you can’t move, there are no jobs, etc etc. You need to knock that shit off and start to understand that even if things may be difficult or stacked against you or whatever, you *can* do things. You need to do some things. You *have* to do things. The easiest choice for you that will make you the happiest and lead the most success for you will involve you finding some agency and doing something to improve your situation. If i were you, from what i can glean from your post, i would start with figuring out how to move away from my overbearing mother and towards a place i want to be living successfully in 5 years.
Congrats on getting a degree! It sounds like you need to re-frame and change your perspective. As a graduate, you have an advantage over those who don’t have a degree. If you have no idea what you want to do, that’s OK. Just start somewhere. Working in a library, creative environment, something as a starting point will help you get out of your head and getting some skills. You’ll feel better once you’re starting to work. It’s an exciting time. Good luck!
you’re at least 18 if you’re going to college, your mother cannot make you do anything. move into an apartment in a city with roommates for $400/month and get driving lessons for less than $1k to get your license within a few weeks. save up for a cash car, take community college classes, and graduate with something you want. stop blaming everyone else, thats what makes you a faliure. Sorry, but calling your own family members “faliures” gives you a terrible look. Readjust your attitude and start going to therapy.
Liberal Arts is setting you up to fail, my brother did the same thing.
He had to go back to school for something like nursing.
Harsh language but taking some personal responsibility for your own life might change your perspective.
Okay I was in a weirdly similar situation, so I can hopefully offer some real perspective.
When I was a senior in hs, I DID NOT want to get a bachelors. I wanted to either do trade school or go straight to working. I was broke as one kid can get, but my parents had good money. They gave me an ultimatum: get a “good” 4 year degree, for which they’d pay half, or go the community college/trade school/work route and be completely cut from the family. Why? Couldn’t tell ya, one parent went to college and one didn’t. The no college parent’s income was near double the one that went… so…
Either way, I crunched the numbers and decided I should get the 4 year degree, mostly so I could still have access to financial support. I did the BARE minimum in school, worked 4 part time jobs to stack cash, and graduated with over 20k in debt still.
Fast forward 4 years post grad and my field has been wiped out, I’m still paying the debt, have been unemployed for nearly 7 months, and now I have to pivot back to what I was going to do to begin with.
I wish I would have never chosen the “safe” option. I feel like I’d be so much better off for it. And now my parents aren’t offering support anyway. So go me, I guess.
All that being said – make sure you can stay housed, fed, and clothed first. That’s priority numero uno. After that, go for what your gut is telling you. Liberal arts unfortunately does not get you into any solid jobs. Social work requires a masters, and does not receive any type of good pay. The payoff for the degree is not there unless you are swimming in grants and scholarships. Even then, I don’t think it is.
It sounds like it’s probably time to stand up straight, puff out your chest, and have a real talk with your mom about what YOU want for YOUR life. Her current plan isnt going to pay off like she hopes it does. She probably has some things to work out with your sister separately. I understand having insane parents, I really do. But at one point in life, you need to decide to start living for you, fuck what the rest of them say.