Ağustos 24, 2025
28 Evde Yaşayan Kaybeden
Uzun lafın kısası: 20’li yaşlarımın çoğunu afyon bağımlılığı ve depresyonla mücadele ederek geçirdim. Şimdi, üniversiteye kayıtlıyım ve yarı zamanlı bir barista olarak çalışıyorum ve saatte 15 dolar kazanıyorum. Çeşitli şeylerden yaklaşık 15.000 dolar borç taşıyorum. 10 yıllık bir bağımlılıktan sonra dört ay boyunca temizim. Geçtiğimiz birkaç ay boyunca kendim üzerinde çok iş yaptım, ama yine de tamamen kaybolmuş hissediyorum – asla gerçekten büyümeyen bir çocuk gibi. Geçmiş işlerim, okul sonrası bakım programı için çocuk amiri olarak dört yıl, demiryolu için yüklenici olarak dört yıl ve çeşitli kısa süreli paket işleme işlerini içeriyor. 19 yaşındayken bir üniversitenin (çoğunlukla genel eğitim) yaklaşık bir dönemini tamamladım. Zaman geçti. Şimdi babamla yaşıyorum, kırıldım ve sosyal medyayı kullanamıyorum – bu beni çok geride hissettiriyor. Dürüst olmak gerekirse, bu kadar ileri bile yapacağımı düşünmemiştim.
İyi para kazanmak istiyorum, ama enerjimi nereye odaklayacağımı bilmiyorum. İşlemlerin en iyi seçeneğim olabileceğini varsayıyorum. Geçmiş akıl sağlığı sorunları nedeniyle orduya katılamıyorum ve düşüşümün büyük bir kısmı demiryolu üzerinde çalışmaktan geldi – 20’li yaşların başlarında arkadaşlarla tüm bağlantılarını kaybettim ve kaybettim. Şimdi, iş dışında gerçekten bir sosyal hayatım yok. Bununla birlikte, insanlarla konuşmaktan zevk alıyorum. Ben düz başlı ve kibarım. Ancak barista olmak gibi işler beni her zaman asgari ücrette tutacak, lise arkadaşlarım ev satın alırken ve evlenirken hareket etmek için yeterince tasarruf edemeyeceğim. Her gün olumlu insan bağlantıları yapmaktan başka bir tutkum yok. Ne yapmalı. Kısa ilerlememde bile her gün daha kasvetli görünüyor
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I am a 29 yo loser living at home
I am the same as you
I am a 26 year old loser living with my parents too
there’s nothing that I know how to do and I don’t even want to know
You are not a fucking loser.
One thing I’ve learned as an addict, is those of us who have been lucky enough to avoid major, major pitfalls in life, sink when shit gets real, when someone like us is gonna have a great family beach day.
Keep doing everything you are doing. You are fucking crushing it. The monotony is crushing i know. Just hang on, and go do some random shit!
A big thing for me is driving downtown where I live or taking a train cross state to nyc to just go walk around. Get a drink, coffee, anything. People watch. Strike up random conversations with people who couldn’t be more different than me (age, ethnicity, gender, political views, experiences), it has got to be one of the most fulfilling things in life for me. Just making a stranger smile, and them making me.
Try to take things lightly. As fucked up as life is, it’s equally as funny and ridiculous.
Take care of yourself. You are fucking KILLING it. Just keep doing you, and you’ll keep finding YOU.
You are not a loser. And neither are any of you in the comments saying you are too. You’re human beings figuring life out. Stop beating yourselves up. Lift yourselves up, change the things you are not happy about yourself & your situations and learn to love yourselves. Life is hard enough – don’t be a bully to yourself. You deserve love and it starts with loving yourself.
I don’t know you, but I’m proud of you. Doing college and any type of job is a feat itself. You should give yourself a lot more credit. At least you are trying to do something to change your situation. Btw to answer your question: meet with career services at you college and they’ll probably make you take a career test or give some
Helpful advice for career searching.
Yes join the trades. I make more doing that than I do with associates degree. All I can say is join union no matter what
I’m 28M in the same exact situation. I have Autism, Tardive Dyskinesia and Opioid addiction
When I was 22M, I was working as a lineman and making $100k a year. I battled with Fentanyl addiction. I started taking drugs because I was overly obsessed with losing my virginity. I can’t get laid. I lost money
Now, I’m 28M with no job, $0, no friends, still a virgin and I feel completely hopeless. I’ve been applying to every place and can’t get a call back. Not even for the minimum wage jobs
I’m also $20k in debt. I feel like I’ll never have a normal life and I’m doomed to be broke and alone forever.
I can’t join the military either. I wanted to be a translator, I am a polyglot. Nobody wants to hire me unless I go to school, even if I can speak the language fluently. It’s stupid. I’m honestly close to begging for money and jobs near my local freeway
I just wanna say good job on getting clean, man. I barely have the willpower to quit weed after 7 years chronically smoking even though I can see it’s holding me back in some aspects of life. It’s just a crutch.
But you’re not a loser. I’m 31 and living at home after being independent since I was 18. I was doing good and then things happened at age 27 and now here I am. 4 fucking years later, I can’t get it together yet. Please don’t give up. That’s what I told myself, that I was done and giving up and my life’s fate is in the world’s hands, not mine. I was so wrong. Good luck to you.
I’m 6 years clean off shooting dope. 36 now and just settled into a career year and half ago. It takes time to adjust. Realize you don’t need 100 friends even 10, grow yourself. When I got clean I cared to much about what people thought of me when none of them even checked on me or even talk to them now. Care about the family that care and look out for you. Shits gonna be rough and you’ll feel down but just keep on pushing. Don’t get comfortable .. shit making 15$ now push for 20$ then 25$ and so on. Get into stocks just with a little bit of money at a time…. Remember things you see other people doing on social media are 90 percent fake. It’s a perception to make others think they are doing amazing but reality they are just like you
You took care of kids while being an addict. Can’t get past that, so I can’t be sympathetic