Şubat 24, 2026
Ben ayrılmak istiyorum.
Şu anda üniversitede 4. sınıftayım. Mezun olmama sadece birkaç ay kaldı ama son zamanlarda zihinsel durumum önemli ölçüde kötüleşti.
Artık neredeyse üniversiteye gitmek istemiyorum; Kalkıp yüzümü yıkamaya cesaret edemiyorum. Yiyecek bir şeyler pişirmek veya dişlerimi fırçalamak benim için zor. Artı ben de çalışmaya çalışıyorum çünkü ailemle yaşamıyorum ve hayatımın bedelini bir şekilde ödemem gerekiyor.
Bir yandan eğitimimi bitirmem gerektiğini anlıyorum. Sadece birkaç ay kaldı ve final sınavı var ama zihinsel olarak bunu yapamam. O üniversitede olmaktan, o öğretmenlerin yanında olmaktan, onları dinlemekten midem bulanıyor. Sınıf arkadaşlarımla aynı sınıfta oturuyoruz. Dayanılmaz.
Ama bitirmem gerekiyor, değil mi? Ailem eğitimimin bir kısmını karşıladı ve pes edip işi bırakmak benim için çok zor. Onlara ne diyeceğim? Nasıl tepki verecekler?
Bütün bunlardan dolayı benim için çok zor oluyor ve karar veremiyorum.
Gerçekten okulu bırakmak istiyorum; Omuzlarımdan büyük bir yük kaldıracaktım ama üzerime düşecek olan ağırlık beni korkutuyor.
ne yapmalıyım?
GÜNCELLEME:
Tamam, bu pek çok soruyu gündeme getiriyor:
- Çalıştığım üniversitede psikolojik danışmanlık merkezi yok.
- İyi bir uzman çok pahalıdır ve benim buna yetecek param yok.
- Antidepresan kullanıyordum.
- Öğretmenlerimin (en azından yarısının) öğretmenlik diploması yok ve bunu herkes biliyor, hatta bunu saklamıyorlar. Bize psikolojiyi öğreten kişi fotoğrafçıdır, o kadar.
- Öğrenim kredim yok ama ödediğim düzenli bir kredim var.
- Ailemden yardım istemenin bir anlamı yok; babamın aslında kendi hayatı ve bir sürü sorunu var ve ben annemle konuşmuyorum.
- Bitirmem gerektiğini biliyorum. Ama kendimi yüzümü yıkamaya nasıl zorlayabilirim? Veya oraya ulaşmak için bir buçuk saat yolculuk yapmak mı?
- Zaten iki yıldır kendi alanımda çalışıyorum. Ben bir tasarımcıyım.
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The answer is you should pull out literally all the stops you need to to graduate. You would regret not doing so for the rest of your life.
I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I spent 3.5 years and was only 4 months away from achieving the goal. I would do whatever you have to do to graduate.
Honestly you should find a way to push through. I don’t know what your grades are looking like but even if you completely half ass it and graduate with straight C’s you should given how close to the finish line you are. I have a friend who dropped out of college and he still regrets it, dude is stuck with paying back student loans and he’s got nothing to show for it.
Have you sought out any mental health resources? You’re so incredibly close to finishing! Do everything in your power to make it through. Buddy up with a trusted friend to keep you on track for just a few more months. You can do this!
You’re mentally in a really bad place. People here are telling you to just push through and finish the last 4 months but if you’re struggling with eating and basic hygiene I would advise against this.
Your mental health is important and it sounds like you’re on the verge of a breakdown. You could try to push through but your grades would suffer and that’s permanent. Go to a counselor on campus and talk about options of taking a sabbatical. They might let you come back another semester, when your head’s in the right place. You can always finish the degree later. Remember that.
If it were a physical condition that was keeping you from going to school, the replies here would be different. But it’s mental so there’s just a “tough it out” philosophy. Please take care of yourself first. Describe the pain to your parents and if they don’t support your decision, go LC for a while.
Your health comes first. Please, please talk to a professional and get rid of whatever guilt you have about forcing yourself to be mentally tortured. No one deserves this, brother, find peace.
finish it. few months left, might as well get it done. drop out now, you’ll regret it later. just hang in there, almost over. maybe talk to a counselor or something.
You absolutely need to push through.
If you think college is this debilitating, just wait until you enter the workforce…
Do you have to go to obligatory classes? Do they check if you’re in class? If not, just study for your last exams on your own time. Check when they’re scheduled next season and prepare a study plan. Generally don’t drop out when you’re at the finish line, the same weight will be lift from your shoulders by finishing on your own time, without the huge downside of not having a degree
There should be a mental health help center on campus. Look for that. Get some help and don’t give up when you’re this close.
I don’t know if your school offers therapy, but please go if they do. Please take advantage if they do. They’re usually free.
Secondly, seek consistent therapy. Teletherapy is usually cheaper or at least more flexible than in-person therapy, especially if you’re having trouble getting out of bed.
Thirdly, use your teachers. Ask them about their career path. Share that you have doubts. I am sure they have been in your shoes. They can be understanding and give you advice. I have a friend who would do this all the time in college, and the professors she vented to all ended up being references for her for jobs. They wrote her letters of recommendation to study abroad, research, and internships. They would tell her about opportunities before others would know about them. She got resources and access to extra help outside of class.
People can be very understanding and supportive, but they can’t if they have no idea. You can’t get help if you do not talk to them.
If your parents paid for your schooling, they probably want what is best for you. If you want to leave but you don’t know where to go, you need to reach out for help from people who know you or who can get to know you. Whether you stay or drop out, use the people in your life to guide you. They may even have resources to keep you afloat. A teacher could recommend you to an employer. You could lose access to that help if you drop out before talking to them. Talk to people involved in your life.
Do not drop out, the current job market is horrible I would do whatever it took to finish this degree.
Tbh it sounds like you are experiencing some symptoms pretty similar to depression. If you can seek out mental health resources I would strongly encourage you to.
As well – finish your degree. It doesn’t matter how you think your professors are doing, teaching-wise. The degree functions as a big checkbox for many career pathes. Hiring managers won’t be asking about your professors. They’ll be asking about whether you have a degree, and what it is for.
You are going to have a much more difficult time getting a job without college. Are there any mental health centers at your school?
4th and goal – you don’t want to fumble at the goal line.
You will hate yourself way more if u drop out. You’re so close. Go thru these few months of hell and come out on top
It will be a good thing to take some time off and just not think about your college for a bit, maybe a couple of days or even a week. Then after you’ve rested, think things through again.
I’ve been where you are, but I decided to stick it out and I am very happy I completed my degree.
Although it is true your mental health comes first, you cannot guarantee you won’t feel worse later for quitting so close to the finish line. So please take time and consider.
Best of luck OP. Take care.
I have the same struggle all the time, and i found out that my reason because i have so much fear of failing while graduation that i would better fail by myself before, so to others “it was my choice” not like “i am a failure who didn’t graduate because i don’t deserve this degree” – i don’t know ofc, but symptoms are pointing to what i described. And yeah, i did what you planning to do several times, and i regret so much that you couldn’t even imagine.
It like being on the date with Megan Fox (or whoever is your crash) while you both drunk and she is excited about you, and next morning you woke up as a “good guy” who didn’t do what was not worth regret.
Come to Japan 🇯🇵 r/teachinginJapan
Can you move back in with your parents temporarily? Stick it through op! Go to a new restaurant or a have a spa day on your day off. You only have about 4 months left you can do it
Maybe see if you can get an accommodation to take any of those classes virtually at least once a week? Your school sounds very informal (to put it nicely) but maybe talking directly to a professor or professors could result in a helpful outcome. There might also be therapy groups online that are low cost! Look into open path collective as well