Ocak 5, 2026
Hayatta Sıkışmış Hissetmek
(26K) Bu gidişle hayatta ne yapmak istediğimi, hatta kim olduğumu bilmemekle sürekli bir mücadele içinde olduğumu hissediyorum.
2021’de psikoloji alanında lisans diplomam var, ancak kendi arabama sahip olmadığım / araç paylaşımı yapmak zorunda olmadığım için henüz bu alanda hiç çalışmadım. Åžu anda bir arabayı finanse edecek herhangi bir param veya iyi bir kredim yok (veya öyle olacak mı), ancak bu alan her gün birden fazla yere gitmenizi GEREKTÄ°RÄ°YOR. Araç alabileceÄŸim bir ortağım olduÄŸu için ÅŸanslıyım ama ihtiyacı olan iyi maaÅŸlı bir iÅŸi olduÄŸu için arabayı her gün alıyor. Bu yüzden sahadaki çoÄŸu iÅŸin beni görmezden gelmesinden dolayı kendimi çok sıkışmış hissediyorum. Neredeyse 5 yıldır aldığım bir derece için, kapıya adım atamadığım için zamanımı ve paramı boÅŸa harcamışım gibi geliyor. Diplomamı kullanmadan veya tek bir araca ihtiyaç duymadan (peyzaj, perakende vb.) çeÅŸitli baÅŸka iÅŸlerde çalıştım, ancak gerçekten sıradan iÅŸlerden yoruldum ve kiÅŸisel kariyerimde hiçbir yere gitmiyorum. Senden istediÄŸim için baÅŸvurduÄŸum her iÅŸ yüzünden, ilk etapta psikolojiye girmek beni kızdırmaya baÅŸlıyor. "günde birden fazla yere arabayla gidin".
Uzak bir pozisyon veya ofis içi terapi işi (tüm vardiya boyunca ofiste kalabileceğiniz bir yer) yakalama şansımı artırmak için dilimi ısırıp psikoloji alanında yüksek lisans yapmam mı yoksa 180 derece alıp başka bir derece almam mı / tamamen farklı bir şey için ticaret okuluna gitmem mi gerektiği arasında kaldım. Şu anda hepimizin içinde yaşadığı gelecekten korkuyorum ve daha iyi bir gerçekliğe asla gücümün yetmeyeceğini düşünerek depresyonum gün geçtikçe daha da kötüleşiyor.
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don’t get a masters yet. get out of the dead end job route.
you have a partner. you’re gen z times are different and so are paths of life. my advice as for almost all situations (and in your case walkable). move to a big city that’s walkable, find a job you’re good at. live with your partner or your partner and roomates. i’ve seen it done many times. then you can afford cities like nyc, SF, seattle, boston which you don’t need a car. get out of the loop that you need to do what your degree was for. plop yourself in a seat and make some money.
friend of mine studied finance and switched to advertising
i do a side hustle with instructing kids and one of the kids parents who was LOADED studied philosophy and super high up in the insurance industry.
nobody is young and dreams of working insurance but it makes money which gives you a life outside of work. then when you’re 40-50 you can be a social worker or something.
trust me there’s so much opportunity out there and i kick myself for not taking advantage. but the most important thing is to figure out a way to move to a big walkable city.
Not sure where you live, but if it’s somewhere that public transportation isn’t readily available, you’d better work on getting a credit score and transportation. While working remotely sounds great, decent remote jobs are pretty hard to come by for someone with no experience. Remember, in this job market, there are a lot of experienced people looking for jobs and you seem to be limiting yourself to just remote jobs.00
this sounds less like uncertainty and more like momentum being blocked by practical limits. When access issues narrow options, it can feel personal even when it isn’t
My partner was in the same exact position you are in a couple years ago and she was around your age as well. A degree in psychology and no good job offers because she didn’t have a car. *How to get a car?* This should be the question, since it seems there is really no way around it unfortunately.
We ended up financing a car for her to be able to get a job in the field. It was understandably so daunting for her, getting into something this big with seemingly very little promise of a job. She cried that day and thought it was a mistake. It was not. She got a job in her field and a couple months later she was financially stable enough to start taking on the car payments (I was covering for her.)
How can you get a car? Save up the downpayment? Lean on your bf or your family? Take a (reasonable, low apr) personal loan against credit? Or your bf can, if your credit is shot? It should be doable, especially if he has a good job and is willing to help. And even if not, $5000 for a car downpayment, with a couple of months of tuna and noodles for dinner and a tight budget, hopefully should be attainable.
As someone with a masters, do not get a masters without first getting some relavent work experience (even voluntary work). Employers are more likely to hire someone with work experience vs an additional degree/ qualification.
I would target in office roles, and focus on saving for a car if you really want a psych role requiring travel. Also put a focus on networking which sometimes helps the job search.
Best of luck!
How about get a job, then a car