Ocak 26, 2026
Üniversiteden mezun olduktan 8 ay sonra işsizim, umudumu nasıl yeniden kazanabilirim?
Tıpkı başlığın dediği gibi. Mayıs ayında üniversiteden mezun oldum ve 8 ay sonra kendimi tamamen kaybolmuş hissediyorum. Nispeten prestijli bir üniversiteye gittim, mümkün olan her staj fırsatını takip ettim, daha fazlasını öğrenebilmek için ekstra dersler aldım vb. Akademik deneyimimden en iyi şekilde yararlanmak için elimden gelen her şeyi yaptığımı hissediyorum. Üniversiteye bir planla geldim, tüm deneyimimi bu planın etrafında kurdum ve şimdi sanki her şey boşunaymış gibi geliyor. Planımın ne olduğu konusunda daha spesifik olamam çünkü bu denizaltının siyasi tartışmalara izin vermediğine inanıyorum, ancak ben siyaset bilimi okumuş bir Amerikalıyım. Bunu istediğin gibi al.
Åžu ana kadar yüzlerce baÅŸvuru yaptım. ÖzgeçmiÅŸimi eski profesörler, kariyer danışmanları ve endüstri profesyonelleri tarafından kontrol ettirdim ve bunun saÄŸlam bir özgeçmiÅŸ olduÄŸu konusunda güvence aldım, ancak herhangi bir röportaj alamıyorum. Mayıs ayından bu yana sadece 4 röportaj yaptım. Mülakatların son turunda bu yerlerden 3’ünden reddedildim ve 3 mülakat turundan sonra 4. sıranın gölgesinde kalabilirim.
Durumumdan çok utanıyorum. Üniversite arkadaşlarımdan hiçbirine ulaşamıyorum çünkü bana iş durumumu soracaklarından korkuyorum. Bu durum ruh sağlığımı ciddi şekilde etkiliyor ve sonuç olarak denemeye devam etme motivasyonumu kaybediyorum ama bundan kurtulmanın tek yolu denemek.
Bu duygunun sonsuza kadar sürmeyeceğini biliyorum. Ancak bu arada, kendime lütufta bulunurken aynı zamanda baskı uygulamama izin veren bir yolda nasıl ilerleyebilirim? Nasıl yaparım "sıfırlama" utancımı arkamda bırakıp ilerlemeye devam mı edeceğim?
Bu biraz moral bozucuysa özür dilerim. Herhangi bir tavsiye memnuniyetle karşılanacaktır!
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Mah, I know that feeling all too well. For the longest time part of the reason as to why I’ve been afraid of meeting with people in general was because I thought they might look down on me for making wrong career choices in life, or due to the fact I am still working part time in sales.
But did you know? At one board games group I now regularly go to, there are people I’ve seen with a wide variety of backgrounds. One person who was in project management for many years a few years ago now got laid off, and is still looking for work. When I asked how she manages to get by she mentioned government assistance. Another person whom I consider a good friend now stated that since September of last year due to downsizing issues he got laid off of his job as a Digital Marketer, and near towards the end of the year managed to get full-time employment in retail. It’s a downside sure, but it helps him get things by in the meantime.
When you read this, what do you think? Do you feel as if these people are gross and should do better with their lives? For me honestly, I don’t. I just understood and moved on. Listened to them as they vent, and offer them advice if I could. And who knows? If there was someone at the group whose company was hiring, they might’ve offered them a job or a chance to interview with their company with a much higher chance of getting in.
At the end of the day, you shouldn’t have to worry too much. If they’re true friends, the people you’ve been with around you won’t care. Where we’re adults, and compared to kids or real stuck up trash nobody will be like that. And even though you may feel like that right now, I would still at the end of the day just talk about it if they ask. For who knows? If they know that their company is hiring, they might be more than willing to help you out and refer you for the job.
Hahahaha…. for as much as I hate socializing due to my autism and in just, general, most of the contact jobs I had until now were due to networking. It wasn’t even in formal networking events either, one was really just me rambling on about my situation and them offering me a contact position at their company. Another one in the board games asked me if I knew SEO/digital marketing terms at the time, which I REALLY wished I studied up on marketing then, for a lady then asked me her company was hiring a digital marketer. Gahhh I had so many regrets then…!
Basically the point is, I wouldn’t need to worry about getting so hung up on stuff like reputation. For if the concept of “normal” ends up being to detrimental for your mental health – you don’t need to follow it! As long as you don’t harm anyone, live by your own morals and principles. Also, if online applications aren’t working, why not just reach out to your friends or if despite it all if you’re embrassed – go out to new social events? For even casual events is networking for jobs in itself depending on how you play it
It’s not you, it’s our world/economy right now. I do highly recommend reaching out to your friends. Networking is important and some of them may be able to help you get a job if they have found one. Alternatively you may find peer support if they are going through the same thing.