Ağustos 15, 2025
İşinizden nefret etmek neden “yanlış”?
Profesörlerimle görüştükten sonra Binbaşı’da seçimimi düşünüyorum. Birkaçı bana nükleer tıbbı (şu anki majör) sevip sevmediğimi sordu ve cevap verdiğimde, sığ ve spesifik hissetmediği için cevabımda biraz utandım. Burada insanların hayatta tutkuları olmadığını ya da hiçbir şeyde veya her ikisinde iyi olmadıklarını tavsiye isteyen mesajlar gördüm. Ters problemim var: Her şeyi seviyorum ve multipotential olma fikri benimle yankılanıyor. Bunu söylüyorum çünkü hiçbir şey Aşk Sizi bu dönemde istikrarlı bir kariyer yapabilir (en azından büyük bir zahmet olmadan değil), bu yüzden insanlar sevdiğiniz şeyleri takip etmeyi söylerken, kesinlikle bir madeni para fırlatma işini (b/c ailesel yükümlülükler) sürdürme lüksüne sahip değilim. Kariyerleri para kazanmanın bir yolu olarak görüyorum ve parayı biraz bağımsızlık kazanmanın ve kişisel masraflar için ödeme yapmanın bir yolu olarak görüyorum. İşinizi tolere etmek ve sevginizi hobilerinize dökmek daha iyi değil mi? Neden bu kadar çok insan bu gibi konumlandırılıyor, yanlış düşünmenin yolu? Bunun gibi deneyimleri olan başka biri bilgelik sözlerini paylaşmaya istekli olur mu?
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I think their kind of mindset sets us up for failure and is unrealistic. I spent so many years trying to think of a job I would genuinely enjoy because of the attitude that “find something you love and you’ll never work a day in your life!” Well yeah but we can not all be Andy Warhol just because we love art. The amount of people that love to sing can not all be supported by the music industry. And very few people grow up dreaming of working at a desk or selling food or picking up trash, but those are all things that need to be done for society to work. So I think finding something you’re good at and can tolerate doing is the main thing.
Some people try to monetize their hobbies but others feel like it would take the joy out of doing it. That’s how I feel about my crafts anyway. I like giving them away because I don’t have space to keep everything I make but adding deadlines to it isn’t enjoyable. And then there’s the issue of whether or not people are willing to pay what the item is worth. Knitters spend hours and hours making their large pieces but few people want to pay the equivalent of a living wage for the time it takes to make a blanket for instance. Not when you can buy one at the store for a tenth of that
I think people mistake this one a lot. It isn’t about a SKILL you like doing. Think of it more like, a lifestyle you will enjoy living. Do you enjoy managing people? Discussing big ideas with others? Working in nature? Spending hours alone in a box cramming out solutions to problems? Diagnosing problems for other people? Then find out which of those you like, and find a skill that you can reasonably enjoy (it doesn’t need to be your “life passion”) and then do it in that field. Our lives are multifaceted. We can enjoy some aspects of our job more than others. What is most important, is what kind of life do you want to end up living? And how do you want to engage with the world, as it is today? Thats the main thing.
I find that the real trick is to find a job that engages you in some way. Especially if you’re someone who wants to do a ton with your life, you’re probably not going to find one job that solves all of that for you, but it can be a part of the puzzle. Maybe nuclear medicine tickles the technical part of your brain, and maybe even a social or community serving part of your brain. Then other aspects of your life can fill in the gaps for artsy or competitive engagement, or whatever else you need.
(Speaking from experience, I’m currently juggling science, acting, and community management in my life and having all of them at once is very rewarding)
Imo the short answer is: people are different. For me it’s wrong, for you it’s not, nothing weird about it. In a way I wish I could feel like you because how it is for me is causing me suffering, but I just don’t want to live the kind of life you’re talking about.
But I must say there’s a heavy bias here for people who don’t want to have a job they don’t care about just for the money, because if you’re OK with it then you fit perfectly into how society is built. No point in making a post about it.
We say pursue what you love because we spend so many of our waking hours working. IMO that’s not possible for MOST people and never has been. I think you see more of people looking for their passion on social media because of the comparison factor and because social media makes people miserable. Even when you very well could be happy with your simple life, social media distorts perspective.
I have had a lot of low wage and boring jobs in my time, and the reason I haven’t been miserable at any of them is because I looked for things I liked about the jobs and focused on them. Most of the time, I liked spending time with my coworkers. Sometimes I just liked having something with a good routine and lots of work to keep me from being bored.