Şubat 3, 2026
Hayatımın geri kalanını acı bir şekilde yeniden gençliği dileyerek geçirmeyeceğimi kesinlikle düşünmüyorum
şimdi 26. Aslında bir hiç uğruna 20’den fazla çalışanına kör bir kızgınlıkla davranan yaşlı yemliklerle karşılaştım. Babamın hiç gülümsemediğini, aslında depresyonla dolu bir hayat yaşadığını gördüm. Yaşlılıkta kimsenin çok eğlendiğini asla söyleyemem. Ve tabii ki gençliğinizde *her şey* olabileceğiniz gerçeğini gözden kaçırıyorlar. Herhangi bir şey yapın. Ve sonraki 60 yıl boyunca arafta sıkışıp kalırsınız, alakasız monoton bir hayatta hayatta kalabilmek için kıvranırsınız.
Bir yandan, gençliğinizde o kadar cesaretli olmanızı öneriyor ki, anılar tek başına orta ve yaşlılık boyunca size güç veriyor. Öte yandan… bu dönemi geride bırakmanın gerçekten hiçbir anlamı olmadığını gösteriyor, bu durumda yolunuzu 20’li yaşlarınızı maksimuma çıkarmaya (belki 30’lu yaşların başında?) ve sonrasında ölmeyi beklemeye yönlendirmelisiniz.
Ve evet eminim ki böyle adamları görüyorum "53 yaşındayım! Hiç evlenmedim! Çocuk yok! Seyahat ediyorum, hayatımın en güzel anını yaşıyorum!". Ama yalan söylemeyeceğim, bunları okumak bana çok az iyimserlik veriyor veya hiç iyimserlik vermiyor, sadece üzücü bir maskaralık gibi geliyor. Kendinizi pansiyondaki yaşlı adam olarak tek başına hayal etmek
O kadar kasvetli ki. İşte tam ortasındayım "hayatımın en iyi zamanı"hala bir şey olduğunda "önemli"tamamen felçli
Etiketler:
9 Yorum
Yorum Yaz
Yorum yapabilmek için oturum açmalısınız.
You will never be happy with a shitty attitude.
Honestly, you need to spend some time working on your outlook.
You assume a lot of things & make definitive statements.
Let go. Relax. Enjoy life.
You are in charge of how happy you are.
Also don’t project your insecurity or unhappiness onto other people.
*You don’t have it all figured out.*
Your assumptions put you on a narrow path to resentment and discontent.
Move in the direction you want to go.
Allow amazing things to come into your life.
Meet them with joy and your life will expand.
I am by far, more able to have deeper joy and satisfaction in my 40’s than I ever did in my 20’s.
“The play doesn’t go away, it just changes” – Gabor Mate
Youth is wasted on the young.
You missed one group. Married couples that have chosen to not have kids. Im in my 40s and genuinely feel me and my wife have unlocked a “cheat” code to life. I agree with you, my married with kids family members appear depressed. Maybe having all those kids didn’t give them the fulfillment they thought it would. 🤷🏾♂️
You’re over-thinking it. The joy is in the quest to improve, not in arriving anyway. Those people end up miserable because they let themselves be robbed of the inspiration to make their circumstances better.
The old guy at the hostel is certainly missing something, having a thriving and loving family is the peak human experience. That being said, they’re having an awesome time and enjoying their lives. Older people having fun is anything but sad.
If you feel like this for a longer time, you should visit a therapist. You can be happy or unhappy in either situation. If your parents were depressed, chances are they did not manage to heal from their demons and simply passed the stick down a generation.
This is a wild post. I’m about to turn 40 and lived probably exactly how a 26-year-old was supposed to live back in the day. Constant travel, partying, boyfriends, and adventures. Definitely sowed my wild oats. But with that also came insecurity and instability, and a sense of dread that is what I’m reading in your post above.
Now I live in the suburbs with two kids and if you ask me if I wanted to switch places with my former 26-year-old self, I would say hell no. While I don’t have freedom, now I have stability and wisdom and meaning in my life. The grind was brutal, but at least it built up something that I’m proud of. Sure I made some good decisions and probably got lucky along the way, but I also made plenty of bad ones and didn’t come from a place of wealth/privilege.
When I was 26 I had zero sense of who I was and what I wanted to be, and with it thoughts like the one that you posted above. I’m sorry that you didn’t find a good example and your parents or your managers, but I assure you that there are plenty of people out there who did find a path. And while it’s not perfect every day, it is something to look forward to.
I really think you should work on your attitude. Life is a marathon, not a sprint. No one stays young forever.
I felt the oldest I had ever felt when I was 26. I’m 35 now and a lot more has happened. I feel my age but if you heal your shit, you can start to experience life as it is right now. The “potential” in your youth doesn’t mean anything unless you make choices, and choices by their very nature close off other potentialities. This is the trade off for walking the path. You can either never walk and ask “what if” forever, or you can make choices and see the path appear before you.
It’s time to start figuring out what really matters and what you really care about. If you can manage to change your perspective, you can find a lot of beauty and purpose in life, but some people never can and spend too much time lamenting youth. Youth is just one factor out of many, and plenty of older people than you have started completely over and started to enjoy the journey.