Ağustos 4, 2025
31 yaşında. Sadece annemle geri döndü, boktan bir kasabada 11 bin dolarım var. Kendimi kaybolmuş hissediyorum ve ne yapacağımı görüyorum.
Herkese merhaba. Daha önce hiç bir yazı yapmadım, ama çok kayboldum. Boktan bir Marrige’den yeni çıktım. İyi bir ücretli işim vardı ve sonra her şey ufalandı ve annemle birlikte hareket etmek zorunda kaldım, çünkü şu anda hangi steplerde çok kayboldum. 31 yaşındayım ve hiçbir şeyde becerim yok ve çıkmaz küçük bir kasabada sıkışıp kaldım. Şu anda 11 bin dolar tasarruf ettim ve sadece kendimi uygulayabileceğim bir yere gitmek istiyorum. Parayı hareket etmek için kullanmak istiyorum ve hiçbir fikrim yok. Ben sadece çok kayboldum, kafam karıştı. Yardıma, bir tür rehberliğe ihtiyacım var.
9 saat uzakta, çok az çaba gerektiren veya hiç çaba gerektiren bir işte çalıştım, banka yapıyorum. Ama bunu bir daha istemiyorum. Kendimi uygulamak istiyorum, üniversiteye gitmenin söz konusu olmadığını hissediyorum. Bana ihtiyacı olan bir oğlum var. tam zamanlı olduğum. Sadece bir şeyler yapmak ve ikimiz için en iyisi olan bir yere taşımak istiyorum. Şu anda çalışmadım.
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You may not like my advice. I’m an old lady with grown children your age, so here we go…I think you should stay with mom. Keep saving your $$ and go to school. I started over at 45 and I’m so glad I did. It’s perfectly ok to figure out what you want to do. What you like and don’t like, and most importantly, what you might actually be passionate about. It will give you options. If you want to fix cars or be a scientist or make coffees. You get one life & and multiple chances to reinvent yourself. Good luck 🫶🏼
Hey, you have $11000 and get to live with your mom, that’s awesome!
Online classes? Plant a garden? Your mom can help with your son?
Girl you won out with this. It’s ok to feel depressed, but if you’re having trouble seeing the positives and getting stuck in a negative mindset, I would work on reframing and getting some therapy; which you’ll have time for now, whoooo.
You’ll get work. Just try and enjoy and give yourself time.
You have a mom to go home to. I was told I could never come back home – shitty abusive family.
You have an advantage, you didn’t even know you had.
Appreciate mom, save your money, and reevaluate your situation.
I’m sure mom is happy to have you around.
Get your LPN or rad tech get a travel assignment and get out it’ll take you about a year and a half
I’ve not lived this life experience, but if I had a son who needed a landing spot with my grandson I would be OVERJOYED to have you in my home for a significant length of time.
Use this, this is the footup you may need. Don’t free load – help frequently and unasked for at home, but the time you don’t have to pay rent is huge. Absolutely huge. It allows for exploration and determination of what works rather than what puts food on the table.
What were you doing before?
I think the first priority is making revenue, whether you like it or not. Perhaps I’m
Misreading you. Do you have the option to make good money again doing the previous job?
First, try and figure out what you like. You want a job that you don’t mind going to everyday. You have 30+ years of work ahead of you.
It’s hard to map out a path if you don’t know what you want to do.
I’m sorry to hear about that, man 🙁
If it helps – I’m 29 and am also losing my job, and don’t really have any skills (I worked in customer support for the same company for 8 years).
I’m looking into the Trades for my next job – specifically becoming an electrician. Have you considered something like that? Depending on where you’re at, you can make good money after you work your way up the ladder some
Your life story has some similarities to mine. I was on top of the world at one point, and one of the most prominent in my particular discipline until I learned that my now ex-wife was cheating on me. The ensuing cataclysm cost me my marriage, half the time I had with my kids, my job, and there were times that I thought of ending my life as well. Over half a decade later, and my life is more wonderful and far more rich with opportunity and laughter than I could have ever imagined. **This is what will happen for you, too.**
You’re at a place that feels like rock bottom right now. I’ve been there — it feels not that long ago — and it sucks. But you have no way to go but up from here. I see from other comments that you don’t want to go back to being a corrections officer. That’s well and good — don’t go back then. You will simply have to find something else that you can do for a living. There’s a lot you can possibly do out there — you just have to apply yourself in that direction.
During your time of unemployment, explore many different things. Try putting up a video on YouTube, or try Twitch streaming, or try a small-time local business endeavor, or try getting into an entirely new thing. During my time of unemployment and despair I got back into piano in a huge way and now I teach piano lessons during some of my free time. I also got into biking not long thereafter and now I’m a bike mechanic who volunteers at my local co-op from time to time. I’ve built and I’ve found communities that I never had before in these ways.
I’m not suggesting that you try those exact routes — but I’m pointing out that you have the gift of time right now. Use it wisely. Use it well. Take small risks and see where they play out.
You’ve got this, man. I have nothing but faith in a better tomorrow for you. Happy to speak with you privately as well if you need a sympathetic ear, or want to bounce ideas off of someone who’s been there.
You have an advantage that not many people do. A parent to lean on and time to figure out what your next move is. You have a chance to reinvent your whole life so do not rush it but everything you do from now on should be very intentional.
Get a real estate license! You can do it online for little time and money. You can go into sales or property management within 3 mo.
I’m 56, and my own path hasn’t always been smooth either.
But I think the real question for you isn’t where to go or what to do. It’s which version of yourself will arrive there.
The truth is – you haven’t yet decided what you want to build on your own terms, instead of repeating someone else’s path. And until you take on that inner task, any city will feel “wrong.”
When you’re ready – I can help you map it out. No coaching. No sugarcoated promises.
Just: where your energy lies, where the leakage is, and how to shift it.