Ağustos 23, 2025
31 ve hayatta çok geride hissediyorum. 30’larında sıfırdan yeniden inşa edilen başka biri var mı?
31 yaşındayım ve 20’li yaşlarımın çoğunu boşa harcadığımı hissediyorum. Akranlarımın çoğu kariyer, ilişkiler ve istikrar inşa ederken, tecrit, dikkat dağıtıcı ve kendimle mücadele etmek için çok zaman geçirdim.
Sonuç: Makine mühendisliğinde çok geç mezun oldum, zayıf notlar, gerçek kariyer deneyimi yok, ilişki geçmişi yok ve genellikle “kusurlu” hissediyorum ya da trene kalıcı olarak özlediğim gibi.
Şimdi son zamanlarda yeni başlamak için yurtdışına taşındım. Bağımsız olmak için iş arıyorum, yerel dili inceliyorum, rutinler oluşturuyorum (yürüyüş, daha iyi yemek, yapı tutma) ve nihayetinde 1-2 yıl içinde mühendisliğe tekrar girmek için eğitim becerileri.
Ama bazen yetişmek imkansız geliyor. Kendimi akranlarıyla karşılaştırıyorum ve çok fazla zaman kaybettiğimi hissediyorum.
Sorum:
Buradaki kimse geride hissettikten sonra 30’larında hayatlarını yeniden inşa etti mi?
Yörüngeyi değiştirmenize ne yardımcı oldu?
Bu geç başlayarak, gurur duyduğunuz bir şeyi yakalamak mı, hatta gurur duyduğunuz bir şey inşa etmek gerçekten mümkün mü?
Paylaşan herkese teşekkürler.
Etiketler:
You have your own life trajectory, you’re already making a lot of progress. Direct all your energy onto yourself and not others. Best of luck!
Don’t compare bro. Stupid and pointless social media may be a problem in your life
I got my first job in my 30s, have never worked a job prior. I feel it is almost impossible to have major “shift in trajectory” without a large external stimuli. Now I have caught up to my peers in career
For me that stimuli is finding my wife, you need to find what works for your. Something that would actually change your way of thoughts and priorities.
Moving abroad may be that stimuli, just have to make sure that doesn’t become an escape or excuse to procrastinate further.
I’ve shared this here before but I’m in my 30s and currently in the process of switching careers and getting another bachelor’s degree. What has helped me is realizing that pretty much no one has their life *truly* figured out, most people are winging it. Also, everyone has their unique story and timeline, you don’t have to ”do life” in the order that’s considered the norm. This is YOUR life and you can do whatever feels good for YOU.
You’re not behind in life, it’s never too late to start over and you can start over as many times as you want.
I started my 30s after losing a 4 year career, fired for drug issues, 15k in debt, no job living with my grandmother and isolated myself from most friends I previously had, 2 years later and ive paid off most debt and saved a decent amount- never too late. Comparison is the thief of joy
Most people don’t start, truly, until their 30s. You’re fine.
Everyone is walking their own path, and even the years you spent isolated will one day turn into valuable lessons. I went through the same, haunted by my past, my family patterns, and my traumas. I ran from them until I finally faced them. And even though my life still isn’t completely figured out, at least I’m no longer chained to my past.
What changed everything for me was realizing: I have nothing left to lose. I’ve lost almost everything a person can lose, myself included, and nearly my life too. That’s when my mindset flipped. If I’ve already hit rock bottom, then every step forward is only a gain, whether it’s experience or my dream life.
Instead of asking, “What if I fail?” I started asking, “What’s the best I can build from here?” And with that perspective, even setbacks became valuable. Every experience turned into progress or a lesson.
The path you’re on right now, this messy, difficult, uncertain path, is the most important one. It’s shaping you, strengthening you, and teaching you. Focus on the small daily wins, because they add up. Trust that the consistency you’re building now will carry you further than the “conventional path” you think you missed.
Some days will feel low, others will feel high. But either way, remember: if something is meant to work out, it will. And if it doesn’t, it still gives you the growth you needed.