Ocak 23, 2026
Dibe vurduğunuzda ne yapmalı?
Herkese merhaba.
Sanırım dibime ulaştım (ya da en azından şu ana kadar dibime). Annemle babam, çocukluk arkadaşım, terapistim, patronum ve sokaktaki birkaç kişi bana zavallı dedi. Öyle olduğum gerçeğiyle yüzleşmek zorunda kalıyorum ama bu konuda ne yapacağımı bilmiyorum. Köklü bir değişikliğe ihtiyacım var ama bu değişikliğin ne olması gerektiğinden emin değilim. Sıfırlamak için psikedelik yapmayı veya dünyanın öbür ucuna taşınmayı düşünüyorum.
Şu anda bir işim yok ama herkes benim zavallı olduğumu düşündüğü için kendimi başka bir iş bulmaya zorlayamam. İşe yaramaz bir alanda diplomam var ve yarı zamanlı olarak yüksek lisans yapıyorum. Hobilerim var (egzersiz ve müzik dahil) ama hiç gerçek arkadaşım yok. Ben de ailemle yaşıyorum. Sosyal kaygım var ve bu her şeyi daha da zorlaştırıyor. Yıllarca bunu aşmaya çalıştım ama beni hiçbir yere götürmedi. Artık terapistim bile benim zavallı olduğumu düşünüyor, o halde ne anlamı var? Hayatımı değiştirmek için kullanabileceğim birikmiş bir miktar param var.
Ben ne yaparım? Hayatta iyi bir yere gelmem için kelimenin tam anlamıyla her şeyi yapacağım. Artık bu adam olamam. Nasıl kaybeden olmayayım? 26 yaşındayım.
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My personal recommendation is giving the anime “Wind Breaker” a try, for let’s just say after seeing that I’ve come to appreciate whatever form of life I currently have. If you aren’t convinced, try searching up the song **Higher I’ll Go** by Ryo Takahashi on YouTube or on the preferred music platform of your choice. For oh boy when I truly got into the lyrics, I use that as my daily positive fuel boost to help me calm down during stressful moments.
The protagonist, in the manga lore has been depicted as “the boy whom nobody ever wanted”. For his entire life he was essentially all alone. So let’s just say, after moving into the new town, everything he experiences there for the first time was really hard for him to adjust to at first, where eventually – he found a place he can call “home”. Where even from his experience, all he wanted was a place where someone needed him, a place where someone who could accept him for well, himself. But his upbringing until then, at one point made him give up on that for the longest time.
From both that show and what I now believe in, I’ll leave you with this quote – “*Don’t give up on people. There will be someone or a group of people out there that will accept you for who you are as a person, not by what you do or accomplish. Don’t be afraid, to jump right in!*”
For let’s just say, my experience with trying to going to many social group near my area at first was very daunting. I had some moments where I clammed up, and gave up going to social events consistently early on. But the key is to be consistent and bear through it. For no matter how anxious people may be, at the end of the day, we all want someone to talk to. To be comfortable around. Fast forwards many years later I have a group I consistently go to and people I can easily talk random shit about. I may not meet up with them as much anymore due to school and life schedule, but whenever I can I join them. The group you meet might not be the right fit for you? Notice that, and keep going to more until you find your people. The ones you resonate with. And did you know? Even talking to people casually is NETWORKING. At one point a random rambling about your current situation may lead to a true friend offering you a job. For that happened to me at one point during an informal church meetup.
People around you currently calling a loser? Well eff them. Mentally give them the middle finger if you’re scared to do so. If possible get away from the toxic people who try to bring you down mentally. For the more you continue to let their words hurt you, the more you’re letting them win. **So, don’t let them.**
Remember, when you hit rock bottom, it’s still solid enough to stand on. Rock bottom doesn’t mean nothing’s left. It means there’s something firm to push off from. How much strength it takes depends on how much you will give. The only person who can help you is yourself.
Why is your therapist calling you a loser 😭😭