Eylül 3, 2025
Okula geri dönmek için işimi bıraktım. Başkalarının reddedilmesiyle nasıl başa çıkabilirim?
27f, hemşirelik için okula geri dönmek için işimi bıraktım. Her ne kadar iş yaklaşık 70k ödemesine rağmen (son derece yüksek bir yaşam alanı maliyetinde) bu alanda sefil oldum, bir performans iyileştirme planına yerleştirildim ve sürekli kovulacağımı sürekli hissettim.
Ailem okula geri dönme kararımızı tamamen destekliyor. Yiyecek veya kira konusunda endişelenmeden evde yaşayabilirim ve birkaç yıllık çalışmamdan biraz tasarruf ettim ve lisans öğrencilerim (işe yaramaz konu) liyakat bursları aracılığıyla ödendiğinden federal kredilere hak kazanıyorum. Ailem, daha istikrarlı bir iş için geleceğime yatırım yaptığımı düşünüyor.
Öte yandan erkek arkadaşımın son zamanlarda beni kararım hakkında ızgara yapan ebeveynleri var. Zaten lisans derecem olduğu için beni başarısızlık gibi hissettiriyorlar. Okulun maliyetinden endişe duyuyorlar (daha düşük maliyetli bir devlet okuluna gidiyorum) ve yarı zamanlı bir iş almam gerektiğini düşünüyorlar (zaten yapmayı planladım).
Finansal olarak hiçbir şey için erkek arkadaşıma güvenmiyorum. Benimle çok ucuz, hatta bir B planının maliyetini bölmesi ve son zamanlarda Yıldönümü Akşam Yemeği için faturayı bölmesi istedi. Tüm randevularımızda kendim için ödeme yapıyorum.
İlk çalışma alanımda bir iş bulamadığım için kararım ve başarısızlık duygularıma bu tepkilerle nasıl başa çıkabilirim?
Etiketler:
You should break up with your boyfriend the way you described him and his family, things won’t work out in the long run.
If you want to go to school, it’s your personal goal and you should care less about what your bf and his family say because he is not your husband and his family shouldn’t even have had a say in this!
Continue your education as far as you can and keep saving for your future (thanks your parents for letting you live with them freely without worrying about food. Definitely use it as an advantage), but don’t spend money lavishly on him or his family at all and don’t disclose your paycheck or next plan!
You are on the right path, don’t let them doubt you in your own potential.
Why do you give a sh*t what people say or whether they approve. You do what’s good for you!
Break up with your boyfriend and get your nursing degree
It’s your life and your path. If this is what’s going to make you happy and they aren’t gonna financially support it then it’s not really any of their business.
I didn’t read anything but your title of the post. I never cared what people think, it’s incredibly liberating.
I say fuck your boyfriend like it’s the first time and then go in there and GET THAT DEGREE!!!
There is a beginning and an end to everything, like jobs and relationships.
What Steve Harvey talks about is what I had to learn about life.
https://youtu.be/bL3MkE2NzoY?si=TduCQovDtmU_c9_r
Why do you care what your boyfriend’s parents think of you? They’re NOBODIES!!! Fuck them! You do what’s best for YOURSELF! You don’t need anyone’s approval, especially those nobodies.
Time to leave the bf and his family behind.
I got rid of toxic folks in my life and it was the best decision ever. Yea it hurts at first, but the peace of mind is worth it.
Nursing is a fantastic field. I’m working towards my accounting degree, but at times I feel like getting my ABSN after graduating.
What you’re doing is a great decision. I know people who made the same choice and moved home to save while taking postbacc. courses. Those people are now attending med/dental school, will 3x+ their previous salaries, and will have job security and intrinsic purpose to their labor.
Your decision will likely pan out very well as white collar jobs will be hit by AI, and those same people who doubted you will be the ones laid off in 10 years. You need foresight and risk tolerance to get ahead, and those who lack both with try and drag you down unfortunately & hammer the nail that sticks up.
You know, I have a very simple mantra for this.
Unless someone is paying your bills, their negative opinion means jack all and should have no merit on your decision.
Your BF clearly isn’t paying your bills for you, and your PARENTS are supporting you, so tell his parents “thanks for your concern but I feel this is beneficial for my future.”
And then ignore them. Almost every city I can think of is in dire need for healthcare. It’s one of the few things that will always be in demand. Invest in your future and tell your bf and his parents “Either you’re with me, or you can fuck off.”
In nicer less aggressive wording of course.
What other people think about your choice doesn’t matter. It’s your money, your life, they can get over it.
If he starts pushing you not to do it, shut the conversation down. Say you’ve made up your mind and you are disappointed at how unsupportive he is acting. If he keeps going, tell him you are doing what’s best for you and to get over it, the door is open to leave if the idea of you furthering your education is so horrible to him.