Ocak 21, 2026
Gerçekten kariyer açısından ne istediğini bilen var mı, yoksa hepimiz bir şeyler yerine oturana kadar rol mü yapıyoruz?
Gerçekten ne istediğini bilen var mı yoksa hepimiz rol mü yapıyoruz?
28 yaşındayım ve üniversiteden beri müşteri hizmetleri işlerinde çalışıyorum; önce perakende satışta, sonra çağrı merkezlerinde, şimdi de bir uygulama şirketi için sohbet desteği yapıyorum. Maaş iyi sanırım, 42 bin gibi, bu da kirayı ve faturaları karşılamaya yeterli ama başka bir şey değil. Ama son zamanlarda sabahları bilgisayarımın başına oturup… boşaldığım bir şey yaşıyorum. Sanki artık şifre sıfırlama biletleriyle fiziksel olarak ilgilenemiyorum.
Herkes bana sorup duruyor "beş yıllık planın nedir" veya "kendini nereye giderken görüyorsun" ve kelimenin tam anlamıyla hiçbir cevabım yok. Benim yakıcı bir tutkum yok. Belirli bir kariyer hayalim yok. Ben sadece düzgün ödeme yapan ve otomatikleşmeyecek istikrarlı bir şey istiyorum, anlıyor musun?
Geçen gün kariyer karşılaştırma sitelerinden birine, American Dream Jobs’a falan bakıyordum, aklıma gelmeyen hangi gerçek seçeneklerin var olduğunu görmeye çalışıyordum. Bütün bunlar bana kendi geleceğim hakkında hangi soruları soracağımı bile bilmediğimi fark ettirdi. Mesela okula geri dönmek ister miyim? Belki? Ne için? Bir ticaret öğrenmek istiyor muyum? Bilmiyorum, belki de bundan nefret ederdim.
En kötüsü de çevremdeki insanların bir şeylerden bu kadar emin olduklarını görmek. Oda arkadaşım hemşire olmak için çalışıyor ve sanki bu bariz bir seçimmiş gibi davranıyor. Kardeşim HVAC’a girdi ve görünüşe göre burayı seviyor. Bu arada ben de… Yaptığım şeyi sonsuza kadar yapmaya devam edebilir miyim, iyi olabilirim ama aynı zamanda da biraz mutsuz olabilir miyim? Ama başka ne yapacağımı da bilmiyorum.
Neredeyse 30 yaşında olmanız ve hala bir kariyerden gerçekte ne beklediğinize dair hiçbir fikrinizin olmaması normal mi? Yoksa herkes bunu anladı da ben mi o günü kaçırdım?
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I’m 44. Very very very few people really have a dream that then they go execute. It’s rare and it’s mostly luck, not planning.
The difference between people who are happy and fulfilled and people who aren’t comes down to two things: first, happy people focus on building relationships, deep friendships. Second, happy people keep their minds open about what they’re doing and look for ways to improve. This is both in work and personally, they’re always asking themselves what they can do better and how they can grow.
There’s a third thing, though it’s usually intertwined with relationships – happy people have hobbies. Creative outlets outside of work, things that they do for themselves, not to make money or build favor. Just for themselves. That grounding is really important to keep in touch with yourself.
most people don’t know in advance, they narrow through experience. Clarity usually comes from testing constraints (what you want more or less of) rather than waiting for a single defining passion to appear.
I’m finishing my bachelors degree at 30.
I drifted around after high school completely lost on what I wanted to do.
I worked at Home Depot for years and absolutely loved it and would have gladly stayed forever, but it was a dead-end low paying job and I knew it.
I’m just now getting my shit together. It’s been a journey, and I still got a ways to go.
I don’t have a clue what I ultimately want to do. An airplane pilot is where my career aptitudes always put me, but I ended up in an office. Tried piloting but I get severely motion sick…
I landed in an industry that I never intended to be in, namely national security, and now just riding the wave to see if I can find meaning and success in it.
I don’t particularly like it or have any passion for it, but it’s mildly interesting. Looking to move actual jobs to a team that provides a community and more in person interaction but ultimately that’s just luck.
So yeah, I’ve just been winging things to see what sticks. I don’t know what I want to be “when I grow up”.
I might not be much help due to my age, but honestly I say experience helps. I really want to become a therapist who works for children. I only thought about this though after experiencing life and realizing I want to how people who’ve been in my situation.
Some advice I got from someone older was learning a new skill you wouldn’t think about. I learned how to bake and currently I’m learning about herbs and how they affect our body.
I’d also say changing your schedule up a bit. If you wake up at 7am wake up at 6:30 and maybe stretch a bit in the morning or do a light jog. Start putting yourself out there and going out, enjoy the sunshine, make a new friend.
There’s also this website called Allison which you can learn new things like cosmetology, law, business, etc. You do have to pay for the certificate if you would want one, but that’s not required for the courses. It is an amazing gateway to learning new things and keeping your brain healthy and learning new topics while not really needing to worry about “grades” or the money. If you don’t like the course you could simply look at other ones.
I think sometimes careers aren’t the only pathway to happiness like i was told. Sometimes it’s the connections we build with our coworkers, our family, friends and even a partner.
I wish you the best and hope that you can find something you truly enjoy or if not, find a pathway that allows you to be happy. That’s important!!!
I’m 28 as well and don’t really know what I want in life. I graduated college and not even using my degree. I wish I had done things differently. After college, I had to get surgery on my wrist from an unpaid internship. I ended up working at Walmart for 4 years, being a team lead for roughly 7-8 months. I quit at end of July due to toxic management. I currently still don’t have a job and been dwelling on what I want to do career wise. I don’t think I’ll know what I want. I’ve been thinking about the trades though.