Aralık 7, 2025
Çıkmaz bir kasabada sıkışıp kaldım, toparlanıp bu yaz daha iyi bir şey için her şeyi geride bırakmayı düşünüyorum.
Tam zamanlı işin olmadığı, çıkmaz bir kasabada yaşıyorum. Kendi odamda internet kullanmama ya da kışın ısıtmayı açmama izin vermeyen kontrol manyağı istismarcı bir kız kardeşle yaşıyorum (çünkü odası benim odamın üstünde olduğu için bu onu rahatsız ediyor)
Sadece toksisiteyi geride bırakıp yeni bir baÅŸlangıç ​​​​bulmak istiyorum. Hayatımın çoÄŸunu Missouri ve Illinois’te geçirdim ve burası yaÅŸamak için berbat bir yer gibi görünüyor.
Sadece yarı zamanlı iş bulabildiğim çıkmaz bir kasabada yaşıyorum ve buradaki işlerin çoğunu ancak insanları tanıyarak elde edebiliyorsun. Bulaşıkçı olarak saatte 17 dolar kazandığım bir işte çalışıyorum. Ama bu daha çok insanları tuzağa düşürmek için yapılan bir dolandırıcılık. Haftada yalnızca 20-30 saat çalışıyorum, çalışma saatlerimiz kesiliyor ve insanlar işten çıkarılıyor.
Amacım yeni bir baÅŸlangıç ​​için yeni bir yere taşınmak üzere birkaç bin biriktirmek. Wyoming’i araÅŸtırıyordum, ancak son zamanlarda Mississippi’yi de bir seçenek olarak araÅŸtırıyorum çünkü burası yaÅŸanacak en ucuz eyaletlerden biri olarak kabul ediliyor. Akıllıca yaÅŸasam bile, 600 doların altında kiralık tonlarca yer görüyorum.
Planım bu hafta Mississippi’deki birkaç yeri aramak ve telefonla bir görüşme ayarlayıp bir ÅŸeyler ayarlayıp bir iÅŸ bulup bulamayacağımı görmekti. Görünüşe göre oradaki iÅŸ piyasası gerçekten yüksek ve benim de oldukça kolay bir ÅŸekilde iÅŸ bulabilmem gerekiyor.
Ama bana herhangi bir tavsiye lütfen? Bu açıkçası benim için biraz bunaltıcı ve bir şeyler bulmak için elimden gelenin en iyisini yapmaya çalışıyorum.
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Mississippi has casinos in multiple regions of state. Requires clean record and drug screen. You would need to complete gaming school to be eligible for hire but some casinos may offer in-house training options.
The inspector gig in this post is always hiring for their areas in Mississippi with some offering company vehicles. You can potentially work anywhere with a port. The clearances/certs you obtain to work as an inspector would open the door to numerous other trades.
https://www.reddit.com/r/findapath/s/0FdXhWUXcH
This is going to be a weird comment..
First I want to establish here that I massively, fully support the idea of leaving town, moving out, getting a place of your own. I personally believe just in general that this is almost always not only prudent but necessary. Further, it’s my personal belief that taking risks and even making horrible mistakes ultimately benefit us personally – either the payoff makes it well worth it or you gain some extremely valuable experience.
So please understand, the following negativity is BY NO MEANS intended to dissuade you from moving forward! We don’t know what we don’t know. We don’t know what questions to ask and what pitfalls to look out for. These warnings are intended to EMPOWER you to move forward more boldly and as you do, to look out for these kinds of problems and what kind of research to do along the way:
cheap rent comes with absolutely HORRIBLE landlords. They seem nice up front, but there’s always and I mean ALWAYS a catch. Sometimes it’s impossible to figure out what it is and sometimes you’re in a situation where it doesn’t even matter because you can’t get anything else.
-The number one thing to look out for is BEDBUGS. This is not merely annoying, this is a nuclear bomb. Literally every other type of infestation you can get rid of, but once you are exposed to bedbugs YOU PERSONALLY become infested. Every single thing you own, your body, your clothing, your furniture, your freaking computer and tv – literally everything will have bedbugs in it. You will carry them with you everywhere – to work, to friends and family’s homes, to your next apartment. You can fumigate and whatever over and over and you’ll never get rid of them. Our family, it was like going through a fire. We LITERALLY had to throw in the garbage every single belonging and start over. We had to go into family therapy for 3 years afterwards because we were all diagnosed with a traumatic anxiety response and anxiety. It destroyed our belongings, & our mental and physical health. I had been renting for decades and never seen them before, only heard about hotels having them. We got into this rental without knowing to even look or ask. The lower the rent, the higher the chance.
-be wary of rural areas, small towns, remote areas. I grew up in a remote rural setting, but it’s a massive trap. The few jobs that are available never change. There’s zero opportunity to move up or increase pay. There’s no new companies, there’s no alternative opportunities like classes or other jobs that pay better. Moving there kills ambition, culturally – people often view ambition and wanting more money as immoral. They’ll point to the countryside and say they could never live anywhere else and shame you if you want more or a better life. It’s like a drug you never lose the addiction for – it’s been decades and I still ache to go back. I visited last year and the same old rhetoric started all over about wanting too much, but it was 2024 and everyone I spoke with was still using dial up Internet. No cell service in too many spots. Medical systems are garbage and hours away. Grocery stores are an hour away and expensive and tiny. Huge massive cities (like nyc) can also be a very similar trap.
-I fully understand the toxic sister problem and the heat thing is ridiculous. But as you look out for your own mental health, be careful there isn’t a grain of truth mixed in with the toxicity. And when I say a grain, I am referring to like a grain of sand. She could be on a tight budget or something and trying to keep the heating costs down or something, and there’s no way you’d ever know. That doesn’t justify freezing you out or treating you badly, but sometimes I’ve seen where verbally acknowledging someone’s legitimate concerns causes them to treat me a little better and sometimes even compromise with me a little. I still got the hell out of there asap, but it made the in between time more tolerable. I basically learned like some kind of acting technique where I pretended to agree with them on everything, even though I didn’t really agree inside, and part of playing that role was learning their “motivation” for why they were being so horrible and toxic. By diffusing the conflict, it was weird, it was like they felt there was no point anymore in being so horrible. I just basically tried really hard to appear as though I genuinely agreed with everything they said on every subject until I could get away from them. But it was all fake.
-the biggest advice I also want to give you is to get a skill. Learn a trade or go to college or teach yourself computer programming online. Welding or machining or Business Administration or Project Management or Python or Database Administration. Get out of dead end jobs and get into something that the longer you do it the more you make.
GOOD LUCK!!!!
I grew up in a small town. My senior class had 127 people.
I left at 25 and have only been back a few times to see family.
Best choice I ever made. The world has so much to see and even other small places are worth passing through.
It feels a bit lonely at first but that passed with time.