Mart 3, 2026
30’la karşı karşıyayım ve çok geç olup olmadığını merak ediyorum
Yakında 30 yaşıma gireceğim ve açıkçası korkuyorum. İyi maaşlı bir işim yok, evim yok, insanların genellikle “başardığımı” söylediklerinde işaret ettikleri büyük dönüm noktalarım yok.
Yirmili yaşlarımın neredeyse tamamı düzgün bir iş aramakla geçti. Tüm geleneksel iş arama yöntemlerini, uygulamalarını, röportajlarını, ağ oluşturmayı denedim ve hatta Adzuna, Jooble, Humaboam ve Authentic Jobs gibi yapay zeka iş arama araçlarını bile denedim. Tüm çabalara rağmen, sanki gerçek bir ilerleme olmadan daireler çiziyormuşum gibi hala sıkışmış hissediyorum.
Kendimi, istikrarlı kariyerleri, evleri ve mali güvenliği olan benim yaşımdaki diğer kişilerle karşılaştırmamak zor. Gösterecek hiçbir şeyim olmadan 30’a ulaşma korkusu üzerime ağır geliyor.
Bazı insanlar ilerleme olmadan 30’a ulaştığınızda neredeyse bittiğini söylüyor. Buna inanmak istemiyorum ama bu düşünceden kurtulmak çok zor. Başka kimse bununla mücadele etti mi? Kilometre taşlarının baskısıyla ve zamanın tükenmesi korkusuyla nasıl başa çıktınız?
Etiketler:
7 Yorum
Yorum Yaz
Yorum yapabilmek için oturum açmalısınız.
hit 30 with debt and crap jobs here, only started figuring stuff out at 32, it’s just insane trying to find anything now
At 30 you’ve been an adult for 12 years. but you still have about 36 prime years left (as 66 isn’t a bad time to start winding down). It might help to think about it like a basketball or football game, where you’re just at the end of the first quarter.
Of course it might help to change up some things – maybe to focus more on building skills, and finishing projects than on finding a traditional job. The more you know, the more you do, the more people you interface with, and the healthier you are (physically and mentally), the more successful you’re ultimately going to be.
And while you’re at it – just do what you can to enjoy the ride.
I was in a similar spot at 28. felt like everyone around me had it figured out and I was falling behind. turning 30 ended up being the best thing that happened to me because I finally stopped trying to follow the “normal” path and started building something on my own terms.
whoever told you it’s almost over at 30 is dead wrong. most people I know who are actually doing well didn’t figure it out until their 30s. your 20s are basically just expensive trial and error for everyone.
stop comparing your behind the scenes to everyone else’s highlight reel. pick one thing, commit to it for 6 months, and block out the noise. you have way more time than you think.
Sorry you’re feeling this way. You’re right, it’s hard not to compare and can be tough when you pictured you’d have done certain things. I would try to remember that we all go through life at our own pace and these made up milestones of turning 20, 30, 40, and beyond don’t actually mean that much. I would start by taking small micro steps towards things you want to accomplish. Then figure out how to get really honed in on what those things are. I know it’s over recommended but even a book like Atomic Habits or there is another one called All It Takes is a Goal could be a starting point to get you some ideas about how to get traction towards your goal. In terms of the job search, I did see someone on LinkedIn post that they are doing a free resume workshop for people in this situation. It could be a good way to get some insights into the job search and maybe make progress on that front? If that interests you I can send you the post. Hope you make some progress. Just remember that slow changes in the right direction pay off over time. There are also more books and podcasts I would recommend if you’re interested.
Comparison really is the thief of joy. Everyone’s on their own path. Just because someone looks like they have money and assets does not mean everything is perfect behind the scenes. They could be dealing with a broken marriage, depression, debt, gambling problems, infertility, illness, etc. You just do not see that part. People usually only show the good sides.
When you zoom out and think about people who are homeless, unemployed, refugees, or fighting serious illness, a lot of what we stress about starts to feel smaller. What feels mundane to you right now is a dream to so many others. It takes some self reflection to really internalize that, but once you do, it makes you much happier.
Yea I’m 32 and had some serious debt issues turning 30 along with medical issues and a low paying job. Set some attainable goals. I felt the same way at one point, and it’s not over at all. It’s a great feeling once you take that weight off your shoulders and realize every day is a new one, and that majority of people feel that they’ve screwed their life up.
remember you gonna die someday and everything will be gone, no matter what you build, what connection you make, everything will end, then nothing really matters that much and you can do whatever you want.