Ekim 21, 2026
Daha iyi bir gelecek inşa etmek için iki yılımı harcadım ve bir şekilde hiçbir becerim, hiçbir gelirim kalmadı ve hayatımla ne yapacağıma dair hiçbir fikrim olmadı.
Son iki yıl çok acımasızdı. Büyük hırslarım vardı, pişmanlık duyduğum kariyer seçimleri yaptım ve artık kendimi zar zor tanıyıncaya kadar kronik depresyonla mücadele ettim. Sonunda, bir zamanlar hayal ettiğim geleceğin peşinden koşmaktan vazgeçtim ve BBA için çevrimiçi bir Amerikan üniversitesine kaydoldum ve kendime en azından bir diplomam olacağını söyledim.
Ama hayatım çok boş geliyor. Sosyal çevrem yok, gelirim yok, rehberlik yok ve dürüst olmak gerekirse kıvılcımımı kaybettim.
Karşılaştırmanın neşe hırsızı olduğunu söylüyorlar ama acı gerçek şu ki, bugünün dünyasında hayatta kalmak için gereken temel becerilere bile sahip olmadığımı hissediyorum. Ben burada durup nereden başlayacağımı bulmaya çalışırken, herkes bir şeyler inşa ediyor, kazanıyor, öğreniyor ve ilerliyor gibi görünüyor.
Ocak ayı sonuna kadar para kazanmaya başlamam gerekiyor ve ne yapacağımı bilmiyorum.
Benim yerimde olsaydınız, net ilgi alanlarınız, güçlü becerileriniz ve sınırlı zamanınız olmasaydı, TAM OLARAK neyi seçer ve öğrenmeye adardınız? Amacınız istihdam edilebilir olmak ve para kazanmaya başlamaksa, aylarca yatırım yapmaya gerçekten değer olan beceri veya kariyer yolu hangisidir? Belirsiz motivasyon tavsiyesi istemiyorum. Dürüst ve gerçekçi bir başlangıç noktasına ihtiyacım var çünkü kaybolmuş hissetmekten yoruldum.
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I can’t say that I’m in that boat, I’m not sure how old you are, but you sound older, 30+. If I was you I would commit to a factory job for a little while, build up some savings, at least make friends at that place and have some fun while you make money.
Or else, if you’re a hustler, go getter, I would one hundred percent recommend sales. A lot of places hire with no experience because they teach you. It can be a bit of a learning curve at the start but if you’re focused you can earn a lot of money. It’s one of those ‘get in get out’ things but you can work your way up and be a manager and earn more commission. A lot of places hire, you just start as a door knocker but you make a lot of quick money. And they organise drinks on a Friday, you just go out on the Friday night and party with everyone.
Just don’t let it destroy your soul, do it for a few years build up savings. It took me 3 months to get good at sales and after that I could apply for jobs that were paying me $2 – 4k a week. It’s a life saver. You’ll get your spark back too, because you’ll start making some serious money and you’ll get your hope back.
so youre sitting on a bba and need cash by january, id look at the boring shit nobody wants to do. data entry, ap/ar clerk, customer service for a bank or insurance company. theyll train you and its not like you need a passion for reconciling spreadsheets. i had a friend who did this exact pivot after a breakdown, shes now making 45k remote and hates it way less than retail
How old are you? In which USA state are you in? Are you living with your parents? Have you been volunteering anywhere to make yourself hirable? Have you applied to any jobs at all (fast food, retail, restaurants..)? Did you apply for side gigs (dog sitting, ubereats/doordash, grocery delivery/Walmart/Amazon fresh …)??
I’m not sure how old you are but I’m 32yrs old female and trust me you are not alone. I don’t have children my bf who was 55 passed away in April from a heart attack I moved out 1 month before he passed due to his daughter moving back in and she just had a baby I just couldn’t deal with the noise level because he had 3 children in total that were staying there. So I moved in with my sister and honestly it feels like my life is starting over. My love life sucks, I have no friends ppl I meet they act strange not genuine ppl. I went to school 2 times I never could find a job in those fields and my job is not the best I had decent jobs but due to my Mental illness been hard dealing with ppl. But yeah I’m still trying to figure this thing called life out and I honestly don’t know if I’m going to make it.
No education guarantees employment. Nursing is probably the closest you can get if you’re ok cleaning up shit and washing genitals etc. etc. It’s a hard life but you’re rewarded for it.
Two years isn’t that long.
Hi, mod and career consultant here!
You haven’t told us a single thing you worked for, have gained thusfar, have dreams for, etc. All you’ve given me is “no this and no that” when….honey please know I say this with love and kindness – you aren’t a master of skillsets to know what is and isn’t worthy as a skill (or degree or anything else).
Stop playing career consultant on yourself when you are not one! You said you made career choices you regret, so you HAVE SOMETHING, and that stuff is REQUIRED to know here for us to help you! As Rule 3 says – **Focus on facts over feelings.**
**I’m not interested in knowing all the ways you beat yourself down.**
I need YOUR honest, realistic current point to give you an honest, realistic starting point.
two years of grinding with nothing to show is capitalism working exactly as designed tbh. idk if youve looked at teh trades but electrical apprenticeship pays while you learn and theyre desperate enough to take literally anyone who can pass a drug test. my cousin did hvac after his “prestigious” degree flopped and hes making 70k with zero student debt lol
The part about barely recognizing yourself after chronic depression resonated with me.
After two psychiatric hospitalizations, I spent years cycling through jobs—doing well initially, becoming depleted, leaving, and starting again. That made it difficult to trust my own abilities.
What I eventually learned was that starting over wasn’t the same as going backward. I was learning my limits and what support I needed, even when my résumé didn’t show that progress.
With your January deadline, I’d begin with actual job listings where you can legally work, before committing months to a course. Pick two or three roles you could realistically tolerate, compare their requirements, and identify the skills they repeatedly ask for. That gives you something concrete to work toward.
My own rebuilding included medical interpreting and later call-center work. Neither was my final destination, but each gave me income, structure, and experience. Your first workable job can serve that purpose while you continue your degree.
Where are you based, what work have you done before, and do you need remote work? Those details would help people give you useful suggestions rather than another generic “learn coding” answer.
Also, if a personal account of rebuilding interests you, I wrote *Surviving Bipolar Disorder: My Journey Through Recovery and Hope*. The Kindle edition is free on Amazon today, October 9. Our experiences may differ, but I share the messy years of finding my footing—not just the eventual progress.
27f and I have a similar story like yours. Went to back to school at 23 and finished at 25 only to land a job at 26 and terminated at 27. I’m currently back in school again for something completely different and I am already having second doubt if this career path is the group path that I actually want. I’ve never felt so lost and alone in this past 27 years of existence but my best advice is to keep yourself occupied. Whether it’s baking, going to yoga, or learning to code, it’s always best to force yourself to try new things. The more we limit ourselves the harder it is for us to realize the opportunities that’s out in the world. As for work, there might not be a lot of corporate positions available since this job market is horrible. However, there’s always places like restaurants or fast food chains that are hiring if you’re looking to make fast cash while you study/ find your next professional role. I currently work at a restaurant part-time and going to school part-time.
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