Şubat 27, 2026
Kendinizi depresyondan nasıl çıkarırsınız ve bokunuzu nasıl toparlarsınız?
Her şeyden önce, ben (28 ay) bunun benim hatam olduğunu ve suçlayacak başka kimsem olmadığını tamamen anlıyorum.
İşsizim, evde yaşıyorum, asgari ücretin bitmesinin ötesinde bir geleceğim yok, bekarım ve flört etmeye hiç güvenim yok. Ne tür bir kadın benim gibi bir zavallıyla ilgilenir?
Bütün gün uyuyorum ve bütün gece oyun oynuyorum, işe başvurma motivasyonum yok, bazen hiçbir yere gitmediğim için duş alma zahmetine bile girmiyorum. Her zamankinden daha fazla boş zamanım olmasına rağmen düzenli olarak saçımı kestirme ve tıraş olma zahmetine bile giremiyorum.
Bütün gün uyuduğum için güneşi pek göremiyorum ve her gün şiddetli bir baş ağrısıyla uyanıyorum.
Ne zaman olduğunu bilmiyorum ama hayattan tamamen vazgeçtim ve son birkaç aydır intihar düşünceleri yaşamaya başladım, sonsuza kadar uyumak ve tüm sorunlarıma son vermek fikri çok cazip geliyor.
Beni durduran tek şey arkadaşlarım ve ailem. Ailesinde intihar etmiş biri olarak bunun insanları ne kadar altüst edebileceğini ilk elden gördüm.
Genel olarak hayatımı nasıl tekrar yoluna koyacağıma dair hiçbir fikrim yok. Kesinlikle istiyorum ama şu anda çok sıkışıp kaldım ve nereden başlayacağımı bilmiyorum.
Bu denizaltında bunu yaşayan tek kişinin ben olduğundan şüpheliyim, bu nedenle daha önce oraya gitmiş olanların bazı tavsiyelerini takdir ediyorum.
Teşekkür ederim.
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Yea this is classic depression, I think if you have the money start with therapy or a psych evaluation so you can figure out a good baseline and then you can add on the jobs and dating but you gotta get your mind right first and give yourself some compassion. Stay safe
Buddy I’ve been there, so I really do understand what you’re going through. It flippin’ sucks.
When you are at rock bottom, it feels impossible to get back up. You have a big problem, and you think you need a big solution to fix it all.
But that is where I think a lot of people go wrong in getting out of this state of mind. You have to take it one step at a time.
Today, I’m going to take a shower. Tomorrow, I’m going to wake up and go to bed at this specific time. The day after that, I’m going to get a haircut. After that, I’m going to get some new, fitted clothes. The next day, I’m going to LOOK at jobs. Then, I’m going to APPLY to some jobs…
You always hear about how money compounds. Well, your personal growth works the same way too!
I highly recommend you journal your way up. “Today, I took a shower.” Just a simple sentence or two about what you did that day. You are going to look back one day and be so proud of yourself.
Slow down and put one foot in front of the other. It’s up to you if you want to take the first step right now.
❤️
Pick somewhere far from your house and walk to it every morning and then walk back.
I hate when people recommend books to solve your problems but please read Lost Connections by Johann Hari if you can. Very informative and insightful look into the history of depression, the causes, antidepressants etc.
How I got out of a similar scenario was a combination of necessity and support.
I needed health insurance (in my country it’s most easily obtained through employment) and my parents were only going to support me jobless for so long. Obviously you have a roof over your head and it sounds like money isn’t a concern, so you might not be in a scenario where necessity to change is involved. With that, I’d focus on finding that support to change your life. Talk to trusted individuals about your desire to grow and change. Ask for help with uplifting you and encouraging you. Ask for advice, don’t be afraid to get vulnerable. For me, half of the battle was believing I COULD do it. It’s really hard to change your life if you’ve convinced yourself that it isn’t possible. Having friends who believed in me and uplifted me really really helped. True change comes when we make it through uplifting ourselves. Change that comes about due to shame or guilt is a lot less sustainable.
Other than that, my best advice would be to try to map out small, compounding goals that are actually achievable. Don’t fall into “all or nothing” thinking. Celebrate small wins and try to grow a little more each day, not being too hard on yourself if you aren’t perfect along the way. Growing and changing has ups and downs, it isn’t linear. One foot in front of the other. Don’t worry too much about where to start, just pick something to focus on and start; get your momentum going. Your life is worth living and it can get better! I believe in you. Truly 🩵
Edit: also might be worth talking to a therapist for the depression. Unsure if you’ve ever tried but it can help a lot. Climbing out of depression is no joke. They could help in the area of “support” too. Best of luck!!
First and foremost no amount of attacking yourself will ever help. Get rid of negative self talk. It is imperative.
You need things to look forward to; set some goals. What do you want to change, write it down and how you can get there—Think about when you had something to look forward to, nothing else mattered as much and it’s a feeling that drives us even before fruition.
The trick is to do things. Proximity is power, the more experience, places and people you meet the better you can pinpoint where it is you want to be.
You’d be surprised how much better you’ll feel and more direction you’ll have by committing to one or two small changes.
Don’t overthink it. Fuck up fast and pivot faster.
“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right”.
Ultimately you have two choices; conquer self, or you will be conquered by self. You have the power to make either decision.
You took the first step to getting out of depression by doing something about it: putting it into light b reaching out and seeking wisdom.
You described me at one point. I was working a dead-end hotel job, making no more than 11.42 an hour in 2020. I sunk into depression, eating two pints of Ben and Jerry’s for 5 nights for 6 months and no female prospects.
For context Im a 38 yo man.
I didn’t have a car. I didn’t have love. I didnt have a way out….until I clung to purpose, faith, and the idea that I can still take action.
Rethink how you think about life and dont look at it from a bird’s eye view,trying to see the whole firest (your whole future and past).
No. Look at it from the ground, and examine tree after tree. Baby steps of improvement.
You see the tree of “exercise”. You know its important but youbfint do it. Okay, discover an exercise you would enjoy and commit 5 minutes or more a day to doing it. Your brain will become less depressed over time.
You see the tree of “dating.” It looks withered a bit. Okay, see if you can make a connection anyway. Join a dating site with a free membership or a subreddit wherebgurls are and shoot your shot. Experimenting may change your mind and build your self-esteem.
Find and read books that speak to your heart. Fill your heart with actionable hope by seeking self-help books or fiction that deal with depression.
You do all these things. Confidence will rise in you like a byproduct.
Just remember, its ok to not know answers. Its not OK to fail to seek them out.
Feel free to pm me if you want to continue to talk.