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Should I break up?

I love my girlfriend. She’s one of those people that are just super attractive, smart, responsible but she’s not putting effort in our relationship. It seems like she has so many other things to worry about like school, friends, and work leaving no time for me. However, I too have friends, go to school and work. I have plenty of time. She’s never free to hang out and when she is, always has the desire to cancel on me because going out is simply too much work. She’s always calling her “boy bestfriend” and making plans with him. She would never cancel on him I’m told. He also has a girlfriend. It has come to the point where I see her maybe only once or twice a month.
She also doesn’t like showing affection, hugging is the peak of what’d shed do. She is emotionless when I do anything nice for her like buying food or helping her do something. She doesn’t call or text first. She doesn’t always pickup my calls and replies to my texts very slow. I do a lot for her but it is never reciprocated.

Is she not into me anymore? Is there a point in staying in the relationship? Is this just how she shows love?

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  1. Yes. Reasons:

    >She’s never free to hang out and when she is, always has the desire to cancel on me because going out is simply too much work. She’s always calling her “boy bestfriend” and making plans with him. She would never cancel on him I’m told.

    You’re the third wheel in your own relationship. I can’t imagine her “boy best friend’s” girlfriend feels any better than you do, at this point. All you can do it save yourself, though.

  2. Being too busy is just an excuse. If she wanted to be with you she would make the time and effort to be with you. It is that simple. You need to move on from this one sided relationship.

  3. I don’t know if this is the correct question for you to ask us. It sounds like you are not getting your needs met and do not want to be in this relationship anymore as it currently stands but only you can really decide if breaking up is the right “next step” for you.

    I ended a relationship I was in because the person I was with didn’t have time for me. There wasn’t another person involved they just couldn’t or wouldn’t put enough effort in with enough consistency for me. It just never felt like I could count on being a priority in their life. I told them how I was feeling. They tried, they cared, they loved me and in the end it just wasn’t enough.

    But that was my decision and this is yours. You could try to fix it. You could try to talk to her and see if anything changes. You could walk away now. I would encourage you to pick whichever one feels right to you. You ultimately get to do whatever you want.

    If it helps, from what you’ve described you do deserve better. Seeing someone once or twice a month, always initiating communication and getting inconsistent responses and being a lower priority than her friend sounds really disheartening. I’m sorry dude (assuming you are a dude) that sounds really tough to get from someone you seem to admire and like.

  4. She’s developing a relationship with her “boy bestfriend” to have something to bounce to when she eventually breaks up with you.

  5. She’s not into you. I would stop contacting or reaching out to her and see how long it takes her to reach out to you. If it is more than 24 hours then she is making absolutely no effort in my opinion and there’s no reason to consider yourself in a relationship any longer.

  6. There’s something to be said here about recognizing when someone is trying to show love (look up Love languages), but it doesn’t sound like she’s doing any of that. What most likely needs to happen is you sitting down with her and having an honest conversation about how you feel. It sounds like you already know how she feels, and if I had to guess, your intuition is most likely correct in that she doesn’t want to put in the effort to sustain this relationship. It takes two people for a relationship to work and when it becomes one-sided, it’s most likely time to leave. You do deserve better, someone who cares about you as much as you care about them. Take care of yourself and good luck.

  7. I think your relationship is pointless. You deserve more than that. Maybe some day she tell you that she feels tired and she doesn’t want this love anymore.