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He never wants me to do anything nice or special for him.

As friends me and my partner used to surprise each other a lot. He’d go to some lengths to make me feel special and get things he knew I’d love. He was also pretty much up for anything.
When he asked me after 10 years I said yes (a year ago).
But I feel like our relationship was better as friends. He doesn’t really surprise me anymore, but maybe it’s because we see eachother so often? So maybe I’m used to having these surprises because it was every other time I saw him.

The big thing is, I literally can’t do anything for him. He doesn’t want gifts, doesn’t want to be taken out. We go out and do things but he often seems bored.
When I told him I felt useless he said he’s very independent and he’ll never “need” me but that isn’t to say he doesn’t “want” me.
I’m a bit of a people pleaser so I find it quite hard.
He’s often said though, that really this is coming from a selfish place on my end.

I really want to make this work. How do I work through this strong need to want to do more for him?

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  1. I think you’re falling into this habit where you expect a surprise or to go somewhere exciting every time. I get it since this is what you were always used to, but it gets tiring after a while for the person on the giving end. Maybe try and surprise him as well? Not in a gift or being taken out. Movie night at home? Do a puzzle together?
    I think there’s a date book that people on TikTok have advertised where they give you date ideas? Try that?

    Do something at home so he doesn’t feel it’s some grandiose gesture. He may feel insecure since “the guy usually does everything for the other person” kind of thing. He may have that mentality and feel he has to do everything for you and it gets tiring after a while. So, don’t take him out and instead just do things at home!