My Boyfriend wants to start a Poly and I don’t want to
I 17 F have been with my boyfriend 16 M, for roughly 4 months. We’ve been fairly happy and healthy compared to my last relationship that ended in toxicity. We’re long distance dating and I noticed on discord yesterday he changed his pfp to match with someone else in the server. I didn’t think much of it since I don’t wanna feel controlling. Though it did bother me. As time went on I called him when I got home from school and then he brought up the idea of polyamory. I was shocked and upset as I’m not up for the idea of being in a polyamorus relationship. He kept reassuring me nothing would change but, I know things will change. I know everything is going to be different. He doesn’t want us to share the same partner, he wants to have 2 partners at once. I myself am a very jealous person and I don’t ever see myself happy in a poly relationship. He then said he doesn’t want to feel tied down in a relationship. I get that sometimes but, you chose to commit to me. You chose to love me and only me. I didn’t sign up for a poly, I don’t want it. I just want him to love me. Though during the call, he said that we wouldn’t do it. Which eased my thoughts for a while.
Until we fast forward to last night. He then called me and told me he still wants to do it. I stood my ground, I said no. I then told him that we can’t stay together and be poly. It just won’t make me happy. I’m awaiting his thoughts but, I doubt he’ll respond to me for the rest of the day. I just really don’t want my relationship to end, he dug me out of a dark place and I appreciate him for that. I just cant allow this, I feel awful for not being able to keep him happy. At the sametime i need to keep myself happy. I’ll keep ya’ll updated.