My husband and I have an friend “Fred” (52m) who has been single all of his life. He has a personality just built on having sex so his whole focus is to do that. Basically a player. Although I’ve known Fred for 30 plus years, I know virtually nothing about him on a personal level. I know where he lives, I know what car he drives, I know what he does for a living, and I have his phone number. I know nothing else about him. He is just not a deep person and when we all get together he just says and talks about surface level things and typically has some hot girl on his arm. I don’t dislike him. I just don’t find him interesting to talk to or listen to.
So last night, a whole bunch of us (about 18 of us) friends got together with the husbands and wives. We are all in our early 50s. Fred shows up with his date “Wendy” who looked very very young. We were at a restaurant/bar where the lighting is very dim and we had already established ourselves at the table with some appetizers food, wine bottles, and some pitcher of beers. So the waitress and staff had already been at our table a few times before they arrived. Our table was far back and in another room as possible. Wendy sat closest to me.
While we were sitting there, Wendy poured herself a glass of wine and was drinking it. She also was nibbling on the food. She was talkative and nice. At some point, she had her wallet open because she had a combo wallet/cell phone and while she was looking away to talk to Fred, when I noticed that her birthday was three days ago AND she just turned 18!!! I was livid!! I asked one of the wives if she would go to the restroom with me.
I told her what happened. I told her that I was not going to be responsible for an 18 yr old drinking with us. Legally she can have sex with Fred but ewwwww!!! So we devised a plan. I went and discreetly told the manager to have Wendy carded and my friend found her FB page and found her Mom. She sent her a msg telling her what was going on about underage drinking and being with a man 34 yrs older than her and was a player. She told her that if she was ok with that great. If not, here is where we are at! We come back from the bathroom and sit down like nothing happened.
A few minutes later, the manager came by and checked her ID and even said out loud *”I’m sorry, you are not legal age to drink. I’m going to have to take this away. Can I get you a soda or bottled water?”* and he grabbed her wine glass. It didn’t deter much from the gathering and we all just went about still talking and having a good time. Approximately 30 minutes go by and an angry set of parents are standing there. Wendy suddenly starts shrinking in her chair with saying: “oh crap!”
Her parents are yelling at her like crazy. What is she doing there with us? Who is she with at the table. We all had stopped talking at this point and her very angry Father got right into the face of Fred and called him all sorts of bad names. He yelled out that she had just turned 18 three days ago too and called Fred a predator! They scream at her to get in the car and she complies. But one quick thing, while the Father was yelling at Fred we learned that Wendy was still in High School. So they stormed off with Wendy and we all just kind of look at Fred like “What the hell dude?!?” He tries back peddling that he didn’t know that she was a fresh 18 and still lived at home. He claimed that she said she was in college and 22 yrs. old.
I do feel good that we took action. Maybe we prevented something. Maybe we just delayed the inevitable. Who knows. But for me, I was satisfied that this young girl going home with her parents where she should be.
Was Fred upset about the whole event? Nope! About 15 minutes later, he started working the single ladies at the bar counter and had someone to go home with by the time we were done!
Thanks for reading my vent!